Wednesday, 24 June 2015

Hugs only for my dad

Being the eldest amongst the three sisters, parents have always been a bit strict with me. May be because i always respected whatever they told me.

Lets go to almost 15 years back. During this period, i was neither allowed to wear sleeveless in bus/ train nor talk to boys nor stay out of the house after 10 pm. My dad used to travel a lot for work during this time. He used to stay away from India for almost 6 months. He has sacrificed a lot of things for us. But being so young that time, i never realized it. I always complained to mom about his behavior and attitude. But today when i am married and when my husband goes even for 6 days i realise how difficult it is for both of us to stay away from each other.

Papa's reason for not pampering any of us was that we all should be independent and tough. He started believing that we are equal to boys so he made sure that we learn sports too. Till date, i remember papa making me do all the bank work from the age of 15. He never accompanied me to the bank to guide me but only instructed me to follow the signs. He taught me that taking help from the officials is absolutely ok.

I was 18 and yet not so confident while driving car. Papa told me to take the car alone and its absolutely ok to bang the car but just make sure that not to bang into anybody. Since that day, not even once have i banged the car. I love driving and it is all because of him. He has always encouraged me in whatever i did. As the years passed by, he became more open minded and never said a no when it came to learn something new.

Now came the time to get married. Most difficult phase of my life. When i decided to chose a partner, papa was the first one to oppose not because he didn't like him but because he wasn't prepared to send me off.. With great difficulty, mom n me convinced him. First time ever i saw tears in his eyes at the time of my 'bidaai' and that's when I HUGGED and told him that i will always respect and love him for whatever i am today.

Many times i miss being with him. He loves travelling to different places, experimenting new cuisines and exploring the unexplored. And i am proud to say that i am his copy in this.
I just love the way he loves his wife. Even when he is angry, only his love for mom can be seen. 
I really appreciate the way he looks after his parents. He makes sure that he meets them on regular basis and talks to them daily.

My papa is the perfect man who balances between his parents, wife and his children. He is more of a friend than a dad figure to his son-in-laws.

Papa truly believes in living for today and enjoy every moment.

This father’s day, I am expressing my love towards my dad by participating in the #HugYourDad activity at BlogAdda in association with Vicks.

Sunday, 7 June 2015

Dad - Dedicated And Devoted

" Any man can be a Father but it takes someone special to be a Dad. "

I, truely believe this.

Earlier( a decade ago) father's duty was to spend time with his children only on sundays since he was busy with his job or business on other days. Most of the fathers didnot remember how their child grew up. Fathers missed many important days of a child's life like first day at school, first performance on a stage, child's report days and many more. I have known families where father didnot know the child's grade.

But, now things are changing amazingly. Today most dads even change diapers. They are at par with moms. They love doing what they are doing.

Dads take kids to parks and play dates. They plan movies and even a short holiday with the child. Whether the mother is a working woman or a housewife, dads actively participate in a child's growth.
It feels so good to see Dads attending school's academic orientations, report days in large numbers. Few schools are even organising a father child day where the child goes with his papa n spend the day at school doing all fun activities.
Fathers too are very informative in imparting knowledge to the child on all possible topics.

Nowadays, dads are more like a friend than a father. Kids are so free with their fathers that they ask any questions to them without any hesitation. I donot remember ever calling my dad by his name (not even for fun). But today, kids give so many different names to their dads.

As most of the culture has pro's and con's , i would like to mention here that The western is influencing for good.

It is very important that the child should always respect his parents apart from being friendly with them.